Iv finally gotten all this animation stuff down and im starting to crank things out now, my only problem is that in the game the sim does the animation yes, but at the end instead of fading back to the normal standing position they fade back to milkshape style (arms up chest out blahblahblah) does anyone know why it does this and is there a way to fix it?

What is the pose on your last keyframe?
Also, make sure that you didn't shorten your animation at some point and forgot to remove the unwanted keyframes before, else they will still be played. To check that, add a number of frames at the end of your animation (changing the frame count) and make sure no set keyframes are still there.

when you made keyframes have you changed the auskel position? if you did it is that the problem.